It’s just better that way because dudes are trash. is to feel a dude out then find the nearest “private” spot (be it a booth, my room at a bathhouse, etc.) before we really get into it. When guys try and put themselves into a session without invite, it’s a mood killer…and I find it happens more often than not when in public spaces. Sometimes another guy coming into ongoing play is welcome, but more often than not, just stand back and watch. Being watched can be pretty damn fun…until dudes see fit to insert themselves where they weren’t invited.
This is because dudes just don’t know how to be good voyeurs. But over the years, I’ve found myself seeking out more private spaces, even while publicly cruising. I’ve long considered myself an exhibitionist. Speaking of which… 3) Interrupting ongoing play The whole top/bottom dynamic makes this whole thing even more annoying, if not sad…but the very act of interrupting folks who already have something going on is tacky, in and of itself. I tend to let the “competing” bottom have him (I refuse to fight for dick)…or (more likely scenario) the dude is enthralled with me and ain’t checking for him, because…duh. Sorry about your luck, but…leave people to their fucking. Every now and then, I’ll be hitting it off with a guy in a given cruising space, and another bottom will attempt to derail that encounter. But I think this notion feeds into a “competitive” mindset among bottoms a mindset we never see among tops. I, personally, don’t buy into that mindset, because…I mean…I’m finding dick just fine. If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard something like, “What do you call a Top in ? A visitor,” I’d probably be able to pay rent for the next 3 months. There’s this common idea that bottoms exist in excess, while tops are unicorns. If you recall me talking about how patriarchy affects Gay/Queer men’s spaces, this is (maybe?) another example. Assholes! Let’s be more cognizant of others in our sluttery…MOVE! 2) Bottoms competing with each other But what really gets me is the dudes who can clearly see they’re blocking people, but still don’t move. Shift over to the nearest corner or a spot off to the side, so we can walk through. I’d rather be cruising around for dick (so I can enjoy thotty self like y’all) than being stuck, idly watching. I do enjoy seeing men hit it off and enjoy their sexuality with each other (even where I’m not involved), but like…I’m also not a voyeur. I feel like I’m not alone in any of these, so let’s share:
However, there’s a few common things I’ve seen and experienced in cruising spaces that confuse me, if not put me off. Not to mention, it just makes sex that much more fun. Cruising has given me opportunities to explore myself sexually and, in turn, learn about myself, as a whole (or a whole hoe…either works). When using a search engine such as Google, Bing or Yahoo check the safe search settings where you can exclude adult content sites from your search results Īsk your internet service provider if they offer additional filters īe responsible, know what your children are doing online.As a sexually liberated Gay man, there’s one staple of “Gay culture” that I’ve been quite fond of over the years: Cruising. Use family filters of your operating systems and/or browsers Other steps you can take to protect your children are: More information about the RTA Label and compatible services can be found here. Parental tools that are compatible with the RTA label will block access to this site. We use the "Restricted To Adults" (RTA) website label to better enable parental filtering. Protect your children from adult content and block access to this site by using parental controls. PARENTS, PLEASE BE ADVISED: If you are a parent, it is your responsibility to keep any age-restricted content from being displayed to your children or wards. Furthermore, you represent and warrant that you will not allow any minor access to this site or services. This website should only be accessed if you are at least 18 years old or of legal age to view such material in your local jurisdiction, whichever is greater. You are about to enter a website that contains explicit material (pornography).